the Midlife male makeover
Friends:
It’s always an entertaining combination of education and irreverence from my friend Kaamna Bhojwani, the sexuality and relationship expert. I couldn’t think of a better guest to engage on the topic of the midlife makeover for men in our Episode 16. (If you’ve ever wondered about Brotox or Scrotox, be sure to give this latest episode a listen!)
After the dissolution of a marriage or long-term relationship, we experience what Kaamna refers to as post-traumatic growth. The epicenter of pain is where men can find tremendous opportunities to develop greater self-awareness, if they’re willing to delve inside themselves and understand the emotional patterns that contributed to the dissolution and their current station in life. Doing this work requires slowing down and being still – something many of us fear and actively avoid by keeping busy to distract ourselves from what’s going on underneath the surface emotionally. On a personal note, I recall my feelings of loneliness and isolation when I was in the middle of my separation and divorce, and the many, many hours I spent binge watching television and news, and filling my schedule with random dates and unnecessary business meetings. But healing happens in the stillness.
After healing comes getting back out there, which can be daunting for men, particularly given how much the expectations of women and society have changed in the last few years. Yes, we’re now talking about the physical aspects of the midlife men’s makeover - from hair transplants and liposuction to Brotox and Scrotox. Men expect women to look great, and now women expect the same of men. Per Kaamna, this is ultimately a positive because there is real confidence to be gained from investing in oneself. (Of course, every man has to find his own comfort level.)
Through engaging discussions and insightful guidance, this episode provides a comprehensive look at the journey to emotional and physical renewal for men, and underscores how embracing the full range of emotions, pausing for reflection, and investing in oneself can prepare men for getting back out there successfully.
