Reconnecting With Yourself Again
Our latest episode features psychologist and executive coach Dr. Adam Dorsay, who works with leaders across Silicon Valley and beyond. He brings a powerful message that hits home for so many of us: Success doesn’t guarantee fulfillment. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, stuck, or like you’re doing everything right but something still feels off, this conversation is for you.
Adam introduces the idea that connection to self is the foundation for everything else in life. Without it, our relationships, our work, and our sense of purpose start to unravel. He explains how childhood passions can offer important clues about who we really are, especially when those interests have been pushed aside for the sake of responsibility, making money, or playing it safe.
One of the most impactful moments in the episode was when Adam posed a simple question: “How are you spending your time?” That question forces us to confront our habits and priorities. He encourages listeners to step back and evaluate their routines. Most of us are pulled into a cycle of reacting to notifications and tasks that leave us drained. Reclaiming your time, even in small ways, can bring more energy and focus to the things that truly matter.
We also talk about flow state, that feeling when you're fully engaged in something you love and time seems to disappear. According to Adam, these moments are powerful indicators of alignment among your strengths, interests, and purpose. He connects this idea to the Japanese concept of Ikigai, which helps you find the overlap among what you love, what you're good at, what pays the bills, and what serves others.
Another theme that stood out was how we show up in relationships. Adam offers thoughtful insights into how we argue, how we apologize, and how those patterns either strengthen or damage the connections we care about most. He walks us through simple tools anyone can use to communicate better, listen more fully, and move through conflict with more intention.
And even if you’re stuck in a job that doesn’t feel exciting, there is still a path forward. Adam shared his own story of being in a role that felt out of alignment and how he chose to view it as a learning opportunity. That shift in mindset helped him grow and led him to his passion for psychology and the man he is today. It’s a reminder that meaning isn’t only found in our dream jobs. It can also be built over time.
What’s really driving your daily decisions? Are you chasing the right things? And how connected are you to yourself, your people, and your purpose? These are big questions, and Adam gives us a grounded place to start exploring them.
I hope you get as much out of this conversation as I did.
All the best,
Jon
