Why High-Achieving Men Feel Empty
At some point, every successful man realizes that success alone doesn’t bring fulfillment. You build the career, the life, the achievements—yet something still feels off. In this episode, EVRYMAN co-founder Lucas Krump shares his personal journey of hitting that wall, despite outward success, and what he did to break free from emotional disconnection.
Lucas thought that financial success and a thriving career would bring fulfillment, but after a major startup exit, he found himself feeling more lost than ever. This realization led him to question everything he had been told about masculinity and achievement.
We dive into how masculinity is being redefined and why traditional ideas of "manning up" or suppressing emotions are holding men back. Lucas explains that most men struggle with emotional disconnection—often rooted in deeply ingrained shame and isolation. He estimates that the majority of men’s struggles come from unprocessed shame that starts in childhood and manifests as loneliness, burnout, or self-destructive habits.
One of the biggest insights Lucas shares is that men need other men to grow. He emphasizes that personal development isn’t something men should—or even can—do alone. Finding a community, having real conversations, and learning emotional intelligence alongside other men is crucial for true transformation.
So where do you start? According to Lucas, you need to slow down and listen to yourself. High-achieving men are always chasing the next goal, but real change begins with pausing, reflecting, and understanding what you actually want.
If you’ve ever felt like you were checking all the boxes but still feeling unfulfilled, this conversation is for you. Lucas shares practical strategies for emotional resilience, connection, and redefining success on your own terms.
I’ve had my own experience realizing that external success doesn’t always fix what’s happening inside. The key is learning to slow down and be honest with yourself. This episode is packed with insights on how to do just that.
All the best,
Jon
